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Getting pregnant

This community doesn't seem to be suuuper active but I'm hoping at least a couple people will have some knowledge to answer my question with. ^_^

My husband and I have decided we're ready to get pregnant. I've been on birth control for 3 1/2 years now (Seasonale) and the latest we want to conceive is early-mid August so our baby would be born in April. If I go off the pill, like, right now would it be possible/likely I'll be able to conceive in early August?

I know everyone is different but I want to know if it's even possible for my body to get back to normal in time? If we can't conceive in August for a birth in April then we're going to have to put off getting pregnant until next year which we really don't want to do. :(
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Once you get off the pill you should start ovulating the next cycle. Actually conceiving is a separate issue. Some people try for years, some people get pregnant very easily.
Yeah, that's true. I guess I'm talking in best case scenario terms. lol
You should start ovulating the next cycle. There is some evidence that some women at very fertile for a few months after coming off the Pill.

However as for trying to plan when you give birth, you are on a hiding to nothing. It's June now and you have given yourself a two month window in which to conceive. Given that monthly fertility rate in humans is only 20% [1], that's low odds. Plus if you do conceive quickly you may well be super-fertile and super-fertile women (those who conceive within 1-2 cycles) are far more likely to miscarry than the standard population [2], so even if you do conceive quickly it isn't a done deal that you will still be pregnant for April.

Sorry to be a downer, but experience has shown me, as a super-fertile woman, that you just can't try to plan things that minutely when it comes to pregnancy.

[1] Evers JL. Female subfertility. Lancet. 2002 Jul 13;360(9327):151-9.

[2] Natural Selection of Human Embryos: Impaired Decidualization of Endometrium Disables Embryo-Maternal Interactions and Causes Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Hmm, that's interesting. I know miscarriages happen, but I certainly don't want to increase the likelihood.
You are unlikely to increase the likelihood by simply coming off the Pill. About 3% of women are super-fertile and you can'y, at present, change that or even predict it.

The point is you can't plan pregnancies with small windows: you can plan when you are going to start ttc-ing but not when you will get pregnant and as mummygeorgie says, even if you do get pregnant and carry to life-birth, you can't predict if the birth is going to be at 33 weeks or 43 weeks, even if the natural mean is 41w.
Even in women who aren't super-fertile the rate of early miscarriage is 30% of pregnancies, possibly higher as many early miscarriages are assumed to be late periods. Getting Pregnant =/= Having a baby all the time.
I've never heard that about super-fertile women and miscarriages. I'm super fertile (always conceive in 1 cycle) and have never had a miscarriage (thanks to charting I know this is true, especially as I've only ever had sex during fertility the 5 times I've gotten my 5 kids).
But it is true. Obviously not everyone who is super-fertile will miscarry but the percentage of women who are super-fertile and also suffer recurrent pregnancy loss (i.e. miscarrying at least three consecutive clinically recognised pregnancies) is about three times higher than normally fertile women.

I'm on pregnancy number 10, at the most have taken two cycles to get pregnant, and only have one kid to show for spending three of the past 6 years pregnant (although thankfully this one looks as if it is sticking as I'm getting relly fed up of first trimesters).
I'd believe it... I'm also super-fertile apparently.. pregnant with twins, through BC AND Condoms. TWICE.
But, both ended in miscarriage within the first term.

I can also understand about first trimester angst. In between the twins, I lost another in the late stages of the first trimester. I've spent the most part of the last three years prego, and hating it.

That's nice to know, though. Doesn't make it hurt any less.. but it does offer some consolation.
No, correction, that's twins and a single. Okay, so those few months are a little hazy..
My first daughter is a surprise from a missed pill, so it's certainly possible to get pregnant soon after coming off it! I agree with
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My first daughter is a surprise from a missed pill, so it's certainly possible to get pregnant soon after coming off it! I agree with <lj-user="ias"> that it is problematic to try and plan things so closely when it comes to pregnancy. It might happen! But it's just as likely not to. And what if you conceive in August and baby isn't ready to be born until 43 weeks? My third child was nicely due in early July, in my university mid-year break. She was born right at the end of July, in the first week of semester.

Good luck.
Everything that ias said, plus, August conception doesn't guarantee April birth-in fact, my older daughter, whose due date was early April (the 6 or 7 depending on who read the dating ultrasound, the 4 when I calculated a due date based on my longer-than-average cycle) was conceived in mid-July. She also wasn't born until mid-April-her birthday is April 18.

(Remember that pregnancy lasts 10 lunar months or about 9 full calendar months, and if you have your heart set on a particular month, count forward three calendar months from the month you ideally want to give birth in to figure out when you need to conceive-so for example if you want to give birth in April, count forward three months-May, June and July.)

As others have said, you can't predict when you'll get pregnant, nor precisely when your baby will be born. Coming off the pill, you also won't have any idea when you'll ovulate-while it's possible that you could ovulate the first cycle, it may take six months to start ovulating again, and if you ovulate at the wrong part of the month for an April birth, then what?

It would be very wise to choose a time to ttc that allows you to go off the pill, give your body plenty of time to start ovulating so you know at what point in the cycle you do...do you ovulate at 14 days or 22, and plan to give birth to a baby at at time when you and your partner can take the time to enjoy having a new baby and becoming a new family.
I was basing the August/April time frame off of a "birth calculator" so I know it's just kind of a rough estimate. I was 2 weeks late being born, personally. I can see what you all are saying about not trying to predict the birth month too much, since babies are going to do what babies are going to do.

Mostly we just wanted to avoid our baby being born in the summer, but after doing some calculating with what you all pointed out, even if I conceived in mid-August the baby might not be born until early or mid-June, which is not what I want.

I think I just got so "OHMYGOSH MUST CONCEIVE NOWWW" because my husband and I finally had the "I'm ready, are you ready?" talk. lol
Possible yes, but not a sure thing. With some women it can take up to a year for your cycles to go back to normal after coming off of birth control. Add to that the fact that perfectly healthy couples doing EVERYTHING right can still take up to 18 months to conceive on average.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler or http://www.tcoyf.com/ is a good place to start.
It also depends on what kind of BC you're on. I know OP said pill, but others have had different results with different types of BC. I've known people to not have a period for up to two years (or more) coming off Depo.
It is entirely possible - I say that as the woman who twice now has gotten pregnant the same month I've gone off my birth control pills.
I'll keep my fingers crossed. :D